Charisma isn't being loud
It's the ability to influence how people feel and act. Charisma doesn't swap you for someone else. It's the same song through louder speakers. Pick one of these three.
The 3 types
Authority (class, work)
Low, slow, steady. End sentences on the down and hold eye contact. Use it when you're leading, presenting, or need to be heard.
Warmth (one-on-one)
Full attention on them. Soft face, nod, remember their name and what they said. The quiet guy's superpower. Use it with someone nervous, new, or going through something.
Energy (hangouts)
Playful and curious. Laugh easily, tease lightly. It comes from feeling good about yourself, not from volume. Use it in groups and when the vibe needs a lift.
Fill your own cup first
You can't pour into other people from an empty cup. Sleep, move, win small, and spend time with people who get you. Pick the type that feels natural, not the one you think you should be. You can learn the others later.
Teacup check
- I slept 7+ hours
- I moved my body
- I got one small win
- I spent time with someone who gets me
- I still felt like myself the whole time
Use it today
Pick your type, write two things you'll do with it, and use it in one real conversation today. Afterwards, notice what they did differently.
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